June Gloom

Please enjoy this lengthy update from me. I have to tip my hat to the ever-amazing Alison for encouraging me to write. When you’re done reading her blog, please check out my pal Jes too as she travels to Seattle.

Might I interest you in some excuses as to the recent silence over here?I’ve been justifiably preoccupied. Moving and dealing with movers, unpacking and looking for fun government documents, trips to Target, Vons, Trader Joe’s, and the Manhattan Beach Library, and starting a new job, ended my 3 month stint of homelessness and unemployment. I chose to call it a mini-retirement, but let’s not haggle over semantics.

I left Ventura on Saturday, June 4th and moved to Manhattan Beach. Finally the last trip, driving my packed to the gills car, on US interstates. I’d misunderstood the movers’ ambiguous message, thinking they’d arrive on Sunday, June 5th. Nope, they were only loading the truck (my items were stored in Atlanta) which would ultimately deliver the items to me on June 16th. For 12 days a lovely Serta air mattress served as my bunk, and Trader Joe’s frozen food sustained me. I knew when everything arrived this brief interval of discomfort would quickly fade. And it has. The most important thing is that I now have internet.

I looked at a number of places from Redondo Beach, Hermosa Beach, and El Segundo to eastwards, towards Lawndale. The proximity and convenience of this spot to my job, Trader Joe’s, the beach, and nearby parks, made it an easy decision. For some strange reason not having a refrigerator is a thing out here. Nearly half of the places I perused had no fridge. Yes, you must provide your own fridge if there isn’t one. This spot also has a fridge and a gas stove in its favor. It’s old though. The walls are so thin you might as well say, “Bless you,” when you hear a neighbor sneeze.

Manhattan Beach, and the entire South Bay, flows with money. Every other car cruising by is a Maserati, Tesla, Ferrari, or a Benz or a Beemer. If you want to live near the beach and get a 2 bedroom, it’s $3500 a month. The weather, the food, the beach, the vibe, and the scenery, it’s all beautiful and it will cost you. Some call this cost the “Sunshine Tax.”

Dude it's June Gloom
Dude it’s June Gloom

One thing that is not beautiful is what the locals call June Gloom. There’s also May Gray. In the morning a thick, gray fog spreads out over the city. The clouds don’t leave until early afternoon, sometimes later. Some like it, they enjoy the cooler temperatures the fog brings. Not me, I demand sunny skies and warm temperatures at all times. That’s why I moved here! I won’t have to endure these awful 60 degree temperatures much longer. June Gloom is almost over.

I am learning a lot about marketing, writing, and the semiconductor industry at the new gig. I’m writing press releases again, something I haven’t done since 1999. I’m observing and noting the office rhythms, learning who does what, how do things get done, and which roles the players have.

My rad 80’s style skateboard from Soul Performance

Skateboarding is something I do now. I even rode into work one day. However I am nowhere experienced enough to ride the deck along these busy streets. One weird move or fall and I could be under a truck. I do ride it around my place and I’m getting better. I’m learning how to stop more fluidly and turn with more control.

This past Thursday, June 23rd, my buds from the rocking Atlanta band, Big Jesus were in Echo Park. I excitedly drove through rush hour Los Angeles traffic to see my pals. They played a very short 30 minute set but those that saw it, saw a tight, rocking band with lots of confidence. To see their growth over the past few years was special. They’ve worked hard and I’ve said they’re the next band to break out of Atlanta. Don’t forget I used to sign bands. I’d definitely sign these guys.

Made it home safe after riding through the rain. Completely soaked.

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Thank you bike, you served me well :(

While so many great things have happened, unfortunately my bicycle was stolen on June 20th. I locked it outside our office that morning. It was still there during my walking breaks. Around 4:30 I was outside on the phone when I noticed it was gone. I went into the nearby businesses to ask if anyone saw anything. They didn’t and it was gone. It’s a bummer, but I’ll get another bike and this time, a much stronger lock!

I started the Ketogenic way of eating (woe) back in April while I was in Ventura. When I moved without any of my cookware I was in a bind so I broke ketosis and ate carbs. I’m happy to be eating Ketogenic again! My goal is drop my body fat and gain muscle. After I get a bit more settled I find a decently priced gym where I can work out.

Today, June 26th, was a day of firsts. I had a first date. A first Bumble date. It was my first time in Downey (we met there as a halfway point) and it was my first date with a Filipino woman. While it wasn’t a love connection we both agreed to stay in touch. We’d talked on the phone several times previously and we texted almost every day. So I have a new California lady friend!

Before you go here’s what I’ve been digging.

Movies: Devil Wears Prada – This year marks the 10 year anniversary and I’ve always loved that film. Very inspiring.
Eye in the Sky – Excellent film with an excellent cast which asks hard questions about modern warfare.
Brothers Grimsby – I’m a Sacha Baron Cohen fan and this film might be his best yet.
The Martian – Simply an amazing and awesome film.
Embrace of the Serpent – Loved this film about an Amazonian shaman across several decades.

Shows: Maron – I’m a Marc Maron fan and this season may be my favorite so far.
GoT – I have a love/hate relationship with this show. I’ve wanted to quit watching it so many times but then something amazing happens.
Silicon Valley – One of the best comedies out now.

Music: Moz, Chairlift, my rad 80’s playlist, Steely Dan (I stupidly missed their recent show at the Hollywood Bowl)

Books: Spiritual Economics – I’m reading this a second time. This book is packed with gems on every single page.

That’s all for now. Thanks for hanging out with me. I promise to do better about updating. I have no excuses now, except laziness.

Slowly Becoming Californian

I have some more exciting news! Before I get to that, I want to own my lack of consistent posting here. Writing consistently is a tough discipline. To take it a step further, to write with precision, quality, humor, personality, and originality it’s a discipline and a huge time commitment.

To be fair I’ve been busy with important stuff: hiking, reading, laying by the pool, going to the beach, cooking for a keto diet, interviewing, and getting a job. That’s right. I GOT A JOB!

I’ve accepted a job with a semiconductor distributor. It’s a phenomenal opportunity and the work I’ll be doing is truly what I wanted to do. I’ll be writing blogs, making videos, posting on social media, and managing the company’s Internet presence.

The company’s in Hawthorne and I’ll be living in nearby Manhattan Beach. This area is known as the South Bay.

I’ve learned a lot, relaxed, and had so much fun during these 3 months off from the daily grind. Now it’s time to get back into the game, earn some more money, and plow ahead for a while. I’m excited to create this new chapter.

Please come visit!



Just point and shoot.

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It’s all about pain. Pain is the greatest motivator I know. We’ll repeat the same behaviors over and over, even ones that do not serve us, until we’re in exquisite pain. You won’t quit smoking or drinking, lose weight, change your diet, or quit your job and move across the country, until the pain is too much. Pain is a good thing. The pain of living in Atlanta forced me to make a change and that’s how I ended up in Ventura.

When I set the plan in motion to move to California, the options laid out before me were Laguna Beach or Ventura. My good friend Kelly in Ventura told me I could stay with her while I looked for a job. Option # 1. Option # 2 was a beach house in Laguna Beach. Yes, an amazing option, however the gentleman who owned the house and I played an unbelievably comical game of phone tag. So I chose Ventura and I’m glad I did.

Right off the 101 and the PCH, Ventura is about 55 miles north of Los Angeles. It’s a laid back, easy going town with a population of about 109,000. You can get from the east side to the west side in about 20 minutes, practically any time of day. There’s an active surfing community. I hate to use the word quaint, but that’s how I’d describe downtown Ventura. It’s a nicely manicured, clean and has a decidedly small town vibe.

Driving around Ventura gives spellbinding and breathtaking views. The beauty proves dangerous while driving. I’m tempted to look at the amazing views when I’m driving, but I don’t want to die! At one turn you’re treated to sprawling mountains, and at another, the vast expanse of the Pacific Ocean. Leaving town, all sorts of farms line the roads of Ventura. The rows of citrus and strawberries line the hills for miles.

Amazing. Ventura.

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Kelly once said about Ventura, “If I ever say I’m tired of this scenery please punch me in the face.” You laugh but that happens. Some lifelong Venturans take this beautiful city for granted. The palm trees, the mountains, and the ocean dim from their awareness. Like Kelly, I don’t ever want to grow tired of this beauty.

Until the next chapter begins Ventura is my home, I’m loving it, and I’m not in pain.

Daily Posts #9 – Showing Up So That This Isn’t The Most Boring Blog

I got off track at Coachella and I had 3 interviews last week. Time to write again.

I care about this blog. I’m often thinking of how I can make it better, funny, useful and worth everyone’s time. I don’t want it to be boring and I don’t want to be a boring writer.

You might ask, “Why are you writing every day? Why don’t you just post good stuff that you spend time on and has quality?”

I’d reply, “Because I have to do what Steven Pressfield talks about in The War Of Art! I have to show up and face resistance every day. I must show up and win, and be a pro!” To quote Tony Robbins, “Repetition is the mother of skill.” I have to do this over and over.

As Pressfield commented, there is an assistance which emerges with a daily process. The muse honors the commitment and gives heavenly gifts. The Beatles knew that gift. Prince knew it. Mozart and Beethoven, they knew it.

One of my favorite all-time quotes is attributed to Woody Allen. The quote goes, “Eighty percent of success is showing up.” Using that belief if I keep showing up day after day, I’ll find success. I do believe it’s true.

Daily posts #8 – Prince

Greetings from Coachella! There’s a lull in the activity so I wanted to update. 

We got in to tent city around 2am. My traveling companions are expert campers and had the site set up quickly. 

We were all shocked by the news of Prince’s death. He was just in Atlanta playing and blowing minds as usual. But now he’s gone. 57?! It doesn’t make sense.

For me Prince represents the ultimate in being a musician, inspiration, songwriter, virtuoso, artist, and a unique voice. He said and lived what he believed. We never doubted his authenticity for a moment. His mythology was immense. It always will be. 

I’m writing this on my iPhone. I had a few daily posts written but I didn’t get them finished or posted in time to keep the streak going. That’s okay. I’m going to keep up the writing because I want to meet the resistance and break through. 

Daily Post #7 – Making New Friends

Last week I spent a day with a new friend I made in Ventura. We met through some mutual friends. He asked me what I did and I mentioned I had a background in music. His eyes lit up and he asked if I knew anything about recording and working with Pro Tools.

“I need your help! My mother and I just bought a recording setup and we’re having a hard time getting things going. I’d love to ask you some questions. My mother was signed to Capitol Records a while back and she can still sing. I used to play in hair metal bands in the 80’s.”

We traded numbers and finally got together. We got some coffee first and he described how he wanted to record. The more I listened I could see he had limited recorded experience. So I explained how tracking works. How ideally instruments are put on separate tracks and then mixed down to 2 tracks.

After coffee we went over to his place and I showed him how to record using GarageBand. Pro Tools doesn’t have all the built-in instruments that GarageBand does and it’s much simpler.

After a while we stopped and his mom, ya know the one signed to Capitol Records, came in. She was interested in what we were doing and was clearly glad to hear some music happening.

She invited me to dinner and we had a wonderful time. We talked about music, Ventura, and they asked a lot of questions about me. It was a great night. I enjoyed hanging out with this new friend and his mother.

Once I get back from Coachella we’re going to get a song down.

Daily Posts #6 – Keto Flu

Last night I had a bout with Keto Flu. This can be a side effect of carbohydrate and sugar withdrawal.

The fever came on around 7pm and by 10pm it was full-blown. There were cold sweats and chills. The sweat soaked through my clothes. I binged on Parks & Recreation. I’m glad that Leslie Knope and Ron Swanson were there to entertain me while my body went into ketosis.

By 2am my fever broke and I attempted to go to sleep.

I spent most of today recovering, drinking lots of water and resting.

Daily Posts #5 – Sugar Is The New Smoking

I’m writing a longer post about sugar, with links to lots of studies that you won’t click on or read. In the meantime, I’m predicting that in the next 5 to 10 years, the use of sugar will dramatically decline. Sugar will follow cigarettes and seat belts. We’ll see how changing our attitude and behavior toward sugar will greatly benefit our health and improve our quality of life.

I know how hard it is to give up sugar, especially here in America. I struggled for years to break its sickening sweet spell. I’m on day 9 with no sugar and it’s getting easier.

In the past few days there have been times when I wanted to dive into an entire tub of ice cream, swimming in its delicious, sweet, insulin boosting nectar. Then I think about the kind of body and level of health I’d rather have, than that temporary high.

If you haven’t seen it yet, I urge you to watch the documentary Fed Up. It’s on Netflix. Watch it and you’ll see this is a real problem.

Daily Posts #4 – Prince

Prince played in Atlanta last night and I missed it. It was another stop on his Piano & A Mic tour. I hope he’ll do one on the west coast soon.

Prince has long been one of my all-time favorite musicians. If I had the chance I’d love to ask him some questions.

Do you have a personal chef?
Do you do your own laundry?
Are you really good at basketball?
Why are you constantly taking down your music on YouTube?
Do you ever call up Sheila E. and chit chat?
Is it true you fine members of your band if they make a mistake on stage?
Why purple?
Do you exercise?
What do you think happens when you die?
Do you practice?
When you’re in the studio, are you engineering?
What’s in the vault?
Do you go to the grocery store and shop for yourself?
What do you think of The Beatles?
Aren’t you a fan of Cocteau Twins?
How would you encourage young musicians?
How did you prepare for this piano and a mic tour?
What’s a normal day like for you?
Do you have a private jet? Do you fly commercial?
What do you think about marriage?
What’s your favorite book?
What movie have you watched more than once?
What’s up with Rosie Gaines?
How about that high note Rosie hits on “Diamonds & Pearls”?

Update 4/16/16: One of the questions I wanted to ask but forgot to write down was if Prince rode bicycles. We all know he’s the man on a motorcycle. The answer is yes. Yes Prince does ride bicycles. Check this article: http://consequenceofsound.net/2016/04/one-day-after-being-hospitalized-prince-spotted-riding-his-bike-throwing-all-night-dance-party/

Daily Posts #3 – This Is Going To Be Ugly

I just realized that there will be some gnarly, ugly, unrefined writing in these daily posts. It will be like those awful FAWM songs that you must power through, so you can finish and get to the next. It will not be my best work.

That doesn’t mean I shouldn’t do it. I should totally do it.

I remember asking Austin Kleon about this. Kleon argues that artists should posts their ugly, unrefined, unfinished work online, let everyone see it. I mentioned what John Mayer had said. Mayer urged Berklee students to resist the urge to publish themselves, to wait until the song is done. Kleon said he saw Mayer’s point, and I do as well, but Kleon disagreed.

Kleon encouraged everyone to get their work out, show the world your process. Yes it will be ugly. Yes it may be painful, for both you and the recipient. Kleon argues you can, “build an audience by sharing that process.” He also says this process helps you, “deal with the ups and downs of putting yourself and your work out in the world.”

We shall see.